That's obviously a lie (see baby picture), but smiling is now a habit I formed at 17. I never thought I was frowning, or scowling or something, but my face as relaxed looked... unhappy? intimidating? pissed? stoic? I'm not sure. People were always telling me to smile. It's still a phrase that pisses me off, with the ineffective comeback of "you fucking smile".
Eventually I realized that if I was going ot be fitting into this world, this 'christian, white supremacist, capitalist, patriarchy' (thanks bell hooks) world that we all live in, I was going to have to smile.
And let me tell you, it works. People still say stupid shit to me, you can't really help that, I suppose I say stupid shit to people as well, but fucking smiling puts people at such ease. Even when you are insulting them.
Now, is this some sort of betrayal? Am I abusing/using my status as 'female' and 'pretty' by manipulating people? Oftentimes I'm seen as being flirty when I'm, just being friendly. Eye contact and a smile are now one of my ways of acknowledging people, this does not mean I want to jumps your bones, or lady wood.
I guess smiling is just a societally accepted and expected mannerism for women to have. I was treated as strange without this mannerism, I adopted it and became more acceptable. Is this a betrayal of myself? Of other non-smiley women? Is this the same type of betrayal as my calling myself 'Jane' and not dealing with the strange reception of my legal name?
What other ways have I changed myself to make myself more socially acceptable? We all do it, we need to fit in and make everything work, 'get 'er done' and all. I just seem to be more acutely aware of what parts of myself I seem to be giving up in order to fit into this crappy christian, white supremacist, capitalist, patriarchal society that we all live in.
It's not acceptable to be sad, emotional at all really, to be late, to daydream, to be alone, to not want money, to not want objects, to not want status, to stand out in unaccepted ways; if you must be different be quiet about it. the specifics of acceptability vary through different communities with the mainstream American one not accepting variations in gender, sexuality, race, ethnicity, outside of their proscribed boxes. One way of combating this is to keep pushing at the edges of the boxes and expanding them. The box for black people was expanded to include athletic ability, then musical ability, orating ability, and soon political ability, but the boxes don't seem to be disappearing. The box for gay people was expanded through the show "Queer Eye" and other TV shows, it's been said our brains need these boxes to make sense of informational input. And so, in order to be accepted you have to fit into whatever box people generally see you as fitting into.
Therefore, here I am at 25 having a bad day at a job I was hired for because of my smileyness. what effect does it have on my psyche to now be smiling when I was to glare at all the people? I don't even want to read the study on airline stewardess (that's not the article I was thinking of, it was all I could find quickly, like I said I don't think I want to read it right now).
But ok, whatever, if everyone else it doing it I might as well hop on in, kind of like a zombie attack, it's just so much easier to be one of them than to constantly battle the hordes of the undead. After all, once you are one of them they no longer try to eat your brains.
Sunday, December 20, 2009
What to do without a fridge
Written on 27 April 2008
If I Knew You Were Going To Be a Writer, I Would Have Been Nicer To You
What to do without a fridge
By the time I was born, we lived in a house. When we moved to Cleveland we sold one house and bought another, I thought we traded down. In Seattle we may have been living in Rainier Valley, just up the street from the Wildwood Tavern and their weekly drive-by shootings, but at least we had a decent yard. Cleveland Heights was some sort of weird Suburbia. There were still shootings going on up the street, but not as often, no one ever got killed, it never made the news, it wasn’t the same. All the houses on our block were basically the same and only a driveway’s width apart. I thought our house made us middle class, normal, everyday, working class to be sure, peoples.
My mom being bi-polar probably has something to do with why money just disappears for them. If you listen to my sister she claims that we all have undiagnosed ADD. Except her, she got diagnosed a year or so ago, her smugness is palpable. So yes, we had a house growing up, but it didn’t always have electricity, or appliances, or food, or clothes, or shoes…
I remember the winter our refrigerator broke. My parents found another one pretty quick, not sure where, but a man and his son came by and installed it. I remember thinking he smiled too much and his son never looked at me. I would have noticed, I would have looked down had he looked up, but he never did. I know we must have appeared strange, people always thought we were Amish, and the decorations in the house were probably alien to them. They were black, like all of our neighbors who weren't religious, and the two communities never mixed. Maybe that’s why the man smiled so much, and kept looking around with big eyes, and his son kept his head down and didn’t look at anyone they had never been inside one of those homes. Not many non-religious people do. I’m suspicious though, that fridge didn’t last a month.
I don’t know if they were able to get all their money back, but they weren’t able to afford another fridge. They seemed defeated after that, and avoided looking at it. Our religion had dictated a thorough cleaning of the fridge, that’s what I was most annoyed about. That duty had fallen on me of course, and I knew I would have to do again with the next one.
I put the basic groceries we had just bought back into their plastic bags, my mom was talking about returning the milk we had bought and not opened. I slung them out the kitchen window, it faced the back of the house at least, not the sidewalk.
That actually made everyone happy, winter in Cleveland is colder than any fridge. I took the stuff that needed to be frozen and buried them in the backyard under the snow that I knew wouldn’t melt till at least April. Then my mom got worried, “what will the neighbors think if they see these bags?” I hate that refrain. As usual it was my job to calm her down, “They’re not going to look, it’s not a big thing, maybe they’ll think our fridge is too full” like that ever happened. “You can’t even see what I put in the backyard”.
Everyone used the bag system to get the everyday food and would send me into the backyard to get anything that was supposed to be frozen. Everyone else was too embarrassed to be seen foraging in the backyard for a bag of frozen peas and carrots. My mom would peek out the windows to watch the neighbors’ house to ensure I wasn’t seen. Our holy, religious neighbors, the ones with 21 or 23 kids. Not the ones on the other side with only 19 kids, the bigger family. They still had young kids living there, but the mother had seemed to finally hit menopause because the youngest was 5 or 7 or something. Holidays were horrifying. In case you’re wondering, the family across the street had 11 kids.
I wasn’t going to let our neighbors dictate my behavior though. What did I care if one of their kids was watching me? More than a few of their kids seemed a little ‘deficient’ to me. Slack jawed mouth breathers, all of them strangely thin, boney, tall, gangly with translucent skin. They were scared of our cats, thought that cats were dirty, and that we must be dirty as well, also we were Gers, dirty almost by definition. “Stop marrying your cousins!!” I wanted to shout when groups of them would sit and stare at me when I came or left my house. The father dealt in diamonds, they could afford to ‘be fruitful and multiply’ and they took it to heart. Not that unusual.
Eventually they got another fridge, probably around springtime knowing them.
If I Knew You Were Going To Be a Writer, I Would Have Been Nicer To You
What to do without a fridge
By the time I was born, we lived in a house. When we moved to Cleveland we sold one house and bought another, I thought we traded down. In Seattle we may have been living in Rainier Valley, just up the street from the Wildwood Tavern and their weekly drive-by shootings, but at least we had a decent yard. Cleveland Heights was some sort of weird Suburbia. There were still shootings going on up the street, but not as often, no one ever got killed, it never made the news, it wasn’t the same. All the houses on our block were basically the same and only a driveway’s width apart. I thought our house made us middle class, normal, everyday, working class to be sure, peoples.
My mom being bi-polar probably has something to do with why money just disappears for them. If you listen to my sister she claims that we all have undiagnosed ADD. Except her, she got diagnosed a year or so ago, her smugness is palpable. So yes, we had a house growing up, but it didn’t always have electricity, or appliances, or food, or clothes, or shoes…
I remember the winter our refrigerator broke. My parents found another one pretty quick, not sure where, but a man and his son came by and installed it. I remember thinking he smiled too much and his son never looked at me. I would have noticed, I would have looked down had he looked up, but he never did. I know we must have appeared strange, people always thought we were Amish, and the decorations in the house were probably alien to them. They were black, like all of our neighbors who weren't religious, and the two communities never mixed. Maybe that’s why the man smiled so much, and kept looking around with big eyes, and his son kept his head down and didn’t look at anyone they had never been inside one of those homes. Not many non-religious people do. I’m suspicious though, that fridge didn’t last a month.
I don’t know if they were able to get all their money back, but they weren’t able to afford another fridge. They seemed defeated after that, and avoided looking at it. Our religion had dictated a thorough cleaning of the fridge, that’s what I was most annoyed about. That duty had fallen on me of course, and I knew I would have to do again with the next one.
I put the basic groceries we had just bought back into their plastic bags, my mom was talking about returning the milk we had bought and not opened. I slung them out the kitchen window, it faced the back of the house at least, not the sidewalk.
That actually made everyone happy, winter in Cleveland is colder than any fridge. I took the stuff that needed to be frozen and buried them in the backyard under the snow that I knew wouldn’t melt till at least April. Then my mom got worried, “what will the neighbors think if they see these bags?” I hate that refrain. As usual it was my job to calm her down, “They’re not going to look, it’s not a big thing, maybe they’ll think our fridge is too full” like that ever happened. “You can’t even see what I put in the backyard”.
Everyone used the bag system to get the everyday food and would send me into the backyard to get anything that was supposed to be frozen. Everyone else was too embarrassed to be seen foraging in the backyard for a bag of frozen peas and carrots. My mom would peek out the windows to watch the neighbors’ house to ensure I wasn’t seen. Our holy, religious neighbors, the ones with 21 or 23 kids. Not the ones on the other side with only 19 kids, the bigger family. They still had young kids living there, but the mother had seemed to finally hit menopause because the youngest was 5 or 7 or something. Holidays were horrifying. In case you’re wondering, the family across the street had 11 kids.
I wasn’t going to let our neighbors dictate my behavior though. What did I care if one of their kids was watching me? More than a few of their kids seemed a little ‘deficient’ to me. Slack jawed mouth breathers, all of them strangely thin, boney, tall, gangly with translucent skin. They were scared of our cats, thought that cats were dirty, and that we must be dirty as well, also we were Gers, dirty almost by definition. “Stop marrying your cousins!!” I wanted to shout when groups of them would sit and stare at me when I came or left my house. The father dealt in diamonds, they could afford to ‘be fruitful and multiply’ and they took it to heart. Not that unusual.
Eventually they got another fridge, probably around springtime knowing them.
What's with the bandage?
Written April 29th, 2008
If We had Known You Were Going to Be a Writer, We Would Have Been Nicer to You
I have one baby picture of myself, I found it in my sister's house and took it, scanned it, and gave it back to her. I'm a toddler, 3 and half or so, so happy and holding up my new baby doll- Viva. I am grinning madly with a giant bandage on my head. I am a cutie pie, I figure I'm pretty high on painkillers.
One of those surgeries, I suspect the one in the picture, is in my first memory. I'm laying on the table, maybe I'm being restrained, but I'm laying on my back. The doctor is explaining what is going to happen: I get the shot, I'm asleep before they count to 10, and before I know it I'll be waking up in my fathers arms.
It sounded good, I never got to see my dad that much, but I really didn't want that shot, "it's not going to hurt at all..." That line, whatta line. I went down screaming, I was really mad he lied to me. It hurt pretty bad, but I was out real quick. I didn't wake up in my fathers arms though; the first time I had doctors looking over me, then I was in a room and my dad was sitting and reading nearby.
I hated hospitals for a long time, the smells, the pain, the lies... I'm still bitter on that. I know I was just a bratty kid that they needed to knock out so they could crack my head open, but did they have to lie? They could have to told me to suck it up cause it would be quick, it's my oldest memory for godsake, does it have to be of a lie? My parents got me the dolly to keep me company in the hospital, it took friends when I was older to point out she was black. So? One of those friends had the white version, sooo not as cute. When asked my mom admitted that all the black baby dolls were on sale, I've heard of this phenomenon before (it's documented in a heartfelt story on This American Life). The visual of American KKKonsumers turning their backs on black dolls as a representation for the way America treats black people never fails to piss me off.
I got over my distrust of hospitals, I ended up spending a lot of time in them, not for myself. My mom worked in them of course, but she was also bi-polar. Every few years she checked herself into the mental hospital, rested, got her all her medications upped and balanced. I would visit when I could, bring clothes and books (no hangars! No shoelaces! No belts!), but you have to be of a certain age to be allowed in. When I was too young I would watch everyone else go through these secure doors and I would wait outside. I spent the time peeking through the window, spying on shuffley people wandering or standing awkwardly, spacily, in a sterile hallway, fluorescent lighting, you know the deal. I waited, trying not to stare, smiling at the people that walked by, surrounded by that smell and the hospital workers. Recieving curious looks, trying to look innocent, or transparent so I wouldn't taken away for another surgery, you know the deal.
I'm lucky though, a lot of people who struggle with depression, anxiety, bi-polar, or other 'disorders' turn to drugs to deal. Well, my mom was always highly medicated, but at least she put it into the doctors hands, instead of whiskeys hands or something. Or rather, the doctor and god. Most women in my family have been hospitalized, locked up, at one point or another, my distrust of people in the medical profession kept me out.
So yeah, as I got older I got a lot healthier with most of my problems stemming from a slight scoliosis in my spine. Luckily I've probably spent more time in hospitals visiting people and keeping them company than actually being worked on myself, but those first few years definitely had an impact.
If We had Known You Were Going to Be a Writer, We Would Have Been Nicer to You
I have one baby picture of myself, I found it in my sister's house and took it, scanned it, and gave it back to her. I'm a toddler, 3 and half or so, so happy and holding up my new baby doll- Viva. I am grinning madly with a giant bandage on my head. I am a cutie pie, I figure I'm pretty high on painkillers.
One of those surgeries, I suspect the one in the picture, is in my first memory. I'm laying on the table, maybe I'm being restrained, but I'm laying on my back. The doctor is explaining what is going to happen: I get the shot, I'm asleep before they count to 10, and before I know it I'll be waking up in my fathers arms.
It sounded good, I never got to see my dad that much, but I really didn't want that shot, "it's not going to hurt at all..." That line, whatta line. I went down screaming, I was really mad he lied to me. It hurt pretty bad, but I was out real quick. I didn't wake up in my fathers arms though; the first time I had doctors looking over me, then I was in a room and my dad was sitting and reading nearby.
I hated hospitals for a long time, the smells, the pain, the lies... I'm still bitter on that. I know I was just a bratty kid that they needed to knock out so they could crack my head open, but did they have to lie? They could have to told me to suck it up cause it would be quick, it's my oldest memory for godsake, does it have to be of a lie? My parents got me the dolly to keep me company in the hospital, it took friends when I was older to point out she was black. So? One of those friends had the white version, sooo not as cute. When asked my mom admitted that all the black baby dolls were on sale, I've heard of this phenomenon before (it's documented in a heartfelt story on This American Life). The visual of American KKKonsumers turning their backs on black dolls as a representation for the way America treats black people never fails to piss me off.
I got over my distrust of hospitals, I ended up spending a lot of time in them, not for myself. My mom worked in them of course, but she was also bi-polar. Every few years she checked herself into the mental hospital, rested, got her all her medications upped and balanced. I would visit when I could, bring clothes and books (no hangars! No shoelaces! No belts!), but you have to be of a certain age to be allowed in. When I was too young I would watch everyone else go through these secure doors and I would wait outside. I spent the time peeking through the window, spying on shuffley people wandering or standing awkwardly, spacily, in a sterile hallway, fluorescent lighting, you know the deal. I waited, trying not to stare, smiling at the people that walked by, surrounded by that smell and the hospital workers. Recieving curious looks, trying to look innocent, or transparent so I wouldn't taken away for another surgery, you know the deal.
I'm lucky though, a lot of people who struggle with depression, anxiety, bi-polar, or other 'disorders' turn to drugs to deal. Well, my mom was always highly medicated, but at least she put it into the doctors hands, instead of whiskeys hands or something. Or rather, the doctor and god. Most women in my family have been hospitalized, locked up, at one point or another, my distrust of people in the medical profession kept me out.
So yeah, as I got older I got a lot healthier with most of my problems stemming from a slight scoliosis in my spine. Luckily I've probably spent more time in hospitals visiting people and keeping them company than actually being worked on myself, but those first few years definitely had an impact.
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Thanks for all the fish
Leaving a city you've lived in for 8 years isn't easy. It wasn't that hard either though. The last two years I failed to travel much and instead holed up and focused on school for some insane reason. I wanted to leave two years ago, I came back to do this job, now that it's over I'm gone.
Digital representations of how much of an impact I have made in Seattle and how much I will be missed aside, I know that I'm losing something precious when I leave. I can count on one hand the number of times I've seen some of my friends this year, but that didn't change our relationship. There's a geography of comfort in spaces where you have lived and become established, the knowledge of what is out there and how it will effect you, where you can go to get stuff done and people you can turn to. I'm losing that.
Phone, internets, and social websites will keep me connected and all of the good people and friends and community are insurance that I'll be back.
Digital representations of how much of an impact I have made in Seattle and how much I will be missed aside, I know that I'm losing something precious when I leave. I can count on one hand the number of times I've seen some of my friends this year, but that didn't change our relationship. There's a geography of comfort in spaces where you have lived and become established, the knowledge of what is out there and how it will effect you, where you can go to get stuff done and people you can turn to. I'm losing that.
Phone, internets, and social websites will keep me connected and all of the good people and friends and community are insurance that I'll be back.
Sunday, March 9, 2008
show
before leaving for the show I had that moment of panic. like i knew everything was going ot collapse and it was starting already, only by my will could I hold anything together. i had to hold the doorframe at right angles as i said goodbye to my roommate, i thought she would say somehting about how it sagged and bent, but she just said she would feed my cat, good luck at the show. i ducked underneath and let it drop behind me. I can't control everything after all.
the fear can't possibly own me. if it did I wouldn't be who I am. I would be some crazy cat lady, I would be my sister, my mom, i would be that kinda-homeless lady who sells real change outside madison market. I wouldn't be me though. fear, intimidation, sadness, none of these things should actually affect how I end up livin gmy life.
I didn't realize we were starting to play.
i had just opened my second beer.
i didn't realize everyone's instruments would be so scattered around the room, i had to choose a spot at almost random, i wasn't plugged into any power source, no amplificatuon past my abused, wrinkled lungs.
i chose a spot with room for me and a holding spot for my beer. Jody was a doll and reminded me that I should be near the tape deck.
tape deck?
so others can hear our noise?
so others can hear my plaintative bleatiing and whining?
i play with the full knowledge that I can barely be heard. I started near the back but reveled in my freedom of movement. my beer and i sauntered to the front. just in time for our love supreme cover.
this cover has put me into hyperventilation. how can a crappy saxophonist cover anythign by coltrain? you don't COVER coltraine! you adore and worship coltrain!
luckily my nervousness disapeared after a half a big boy of the jasmine IPA. that's how much it takes to objectively realize that reality is melting while not screaming and crying.
people make my reality melt.
hades doesn't
the show went great s far as I can tell. don't get me wrong, there was a max of 10 people there at one time. but everything went well. the birthday girl seemed to love it. and hey, that's what it was there for.
i just need to drink more.
the fear can't possibly own me. if it did I wouldn't be who I am. I would be some crazy cat lady, I would be my sister, my mom, i would be that kinda-homeless lady who sells real change outside madison market. I wouldn't be me though. fear, intimidation, sadness, none of these things should actually affect how I end up livin gmy life.
I didn't realize we were starting to play.
i had just opened my second beer.
i didn't realize everyone's instruments would be so scattered around the room, i had to choose a spot at almost random, i wasn't plugged into any power source, no amplificatuon past my abused, wrinkled lungs.
i chose a spot with room for me and a holding spot for my beer. Jody was a doll and reminded me that I should be near the tape deck.
tape deck?
so others can hear our noise?
so others can hear my plaintative bleatiing and whining?
i play with the full knowledge that I can barely be heard. I started near the back but reveled in my freedom of movement. my beer and i sauntered to the front. just in time for our love supreme cover.
this cover has put me into hyperventilation. how can a crappy saxophonist cover anythign by coltrain? you don't COVER coltraine! you adore and worship coltrain!
luckily my nervousness disapeared after a half a big boy of the jasmine IPA. that's how much it takes to objectively realize that reality is melting while not screaming and crying.
people make my reality melt.
hades doesn't
the show went great s far as I can tell. don't get me wrong, there was a max of 10 people there at one time. but everything went well. the birthday girl seemed to love it. and hey, that's what it was there for.
i just need to drink more.
Tuesday, February 5, 2008
Coffee Tasting Chart!!
for everyone out there who has no idea what good coffee tastes like, but still wants something 'good' that they 'like' here is the semi-retarded coffee flavor chart!
so to figure out what kind of roast you prefer on your beans you answer questions about the flavors you prefer with regards to other foods you eat.
my favorite being
I think the wine one is an interesting question as well. Of course my coffee tastes go all over, sometimes I just want a deep, dark, greasy roast-up like French, and other times a nice Ethiopian Yigacheffe does me up right.
It's pretty ridiculous but I'll bet it cuts down on the annoying customers bugging the baristas on which coffee they should buy.
so to figure out what kind of roast you prefer on your beans you answer questions about the flavors you prefer with regards to other foods you eat.
my favorite being
how do you like your marshmallows?
I think the wine one is an interesting question as well. Of course my coffee tastes go all over, sometimes I just want a deep, dark, greasy roast-up like French, and other times a nice Ethiopian Yigacheffe does me up right.
It's pretty ridiculous but I'll bet it cuts down on the annoying customers bugging the baristas on which coffee they should buy.
Monday, February 4, 2008
Craigslist Creeps
i troll through the craigslist ads for housing in cities i daydream of escaping to. I started noticing a trend in the portland housing ads mentioning specifically if they would be accepting applicants with section 8 or not. Is this just Portland? Are they allowed to do that? Is it because they have so many crazies in Portland, or because there are so many fucked up war vets around now? My friend says more vietnam veterans died from killing themselves than in actual combat. I think the next few years are going to get pretty scary around here.
I then switched over to seattle's craigslist where I didn't see any disclaimers about section 8, but I did see a lot of creepy people posting ads. What is up with these people? They don't want roommates, they want fuck buddies, buff pool boys, french maid girls, why are they posting in the housing section?? Maybe their personal ads aren't getting enough attention.
This guy is great
I'm glad he reposted with more information, yet didn't bother to fix up the butchered grammar in the sentences.
This lady manages to be fairly creepy as well:
seriously? maybe she has assault fantasies.
i'm glad to see that the 1$/free rent guy is still posting. The notice changes wording ever so slightly but the spirit of the offer always stays the same:
and female preferred? ha. The plasma tv and hot tub do sound tempting, and it has been during times of couchsurfing homelessness, but this is not an actual housing offer. Gross.
I then switched over to seattle's craigslist where I didn't see any disclaimers about section 8, but I did see a lot of creepy people posting ads. What is up with these people? They don't want roommates, they want fuck buddies, buff pool boys, french maid girls, why are they posting in the housing section?? Maybe their personal ads aren't getting enough attention.
This guy is great
$262 Let’s share One Bed Room
Reply to: hous-555343798@craigslist.org
Date: 2008-01-28, 11:44PM PST
Hi there,
I have posted this ad last time. However, I am reposting it since I wanted to include more information.
I have recently moved from CA and have been living in a 1BR. Its monthly payment including utilities is $524.00.
I am a man and have never had any drugs or smoking. I have a car and have been using the free parking spot.
If you have a car, there is no more free parking spot left for you. Please no drugs, smoking, or pets. I want you to move by February 1st. I prefer a female roommate.
I am afraid that I don't have a photo and my computer also doesn't have the necessary equipment to attach a picture. We can meet for coffee and I will show you the place.
If you are interested, please let me know your phone number and we will talk about it.
Hope to hear from you soon.
Thanks.
I'm glad he reposted with more information, yet didn't bother to fix up the butchered grammar in the sentences.
This lady manages to be fairly creepy as well:
$300 female looking for male to share house
Reply to: hous-556507205@craigslist.org
Date: 2008-01-29, 10:56PM PST
i live in bellevue near ne 8st by myself and looking for a male roomate. it will only be me and you, the rent is cheap cause you will be responsible for all gardening and general maint when applicable. i have a furnished room with a nice view of downtown. i have a black lab so you must like dogs. please send me some general info and a pic of you, to make sure you dont look like a creep or something,ciao mikeb.
seriously? maybe she has assault fantasies.
i'm glad to see that the 1$/free rent guy is still posting. The notice changes wording ever so slightly but the spirit of the offer always stays the same:
$1 Belltown penthouse / female preffered
Reply to: hous-561861284@craigslist.org
Date: 2008-02-03, 3:07PM PST
Very nice penthouse apartment in Belltown, big deck with water and city views, very clean, plasma TV, hot tub on roof, BBQ etc..Near all the fun stuff, clubs cafes, walk to Seattle Center, AI, Queen Anne and the ballparks.
Nice business professional male 42 seeks female roommate 20-30, free utlities. food and rent. Seeking someone who can tease me occassionally and enjoys it..that's all...respectful clean, expect same. no pets please ...room available is a den with a view..small but smartly appointed lovely with windows....write for details
and female preferred? ha. The plasma tv and hot tub do sound tempting, and it has been during times of couchsurfing homelessness, but this is not an actual housing offer. Gross.
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